“The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other.” - Jane Blaustone. If you and your child’s other parent is having a hard time seeing eye-to-eye with co-parenting, divorce lawyers in Utah want to help you get the matter resolved. Parenting is a difficult job when both parents are in the home. Factor in divorce or separation, and the insurmountable stress flows like a fountain from parents to children. Here are three steps you can put in place to improve your role as a co-parent.
You Can Only Control You
Benjamin Franklin knowingly said, “In this world, nothing can be said to be certain but death and taxes.” Realistically, no one marries to divorce. No one has children to abandon them purposefully. Life happens, and it does not always play out how we hoped it would.With co-parenting, it’s easy for fear to dictate behavior, especially at the beginning of a separation or divorce. You may feel yourself wanting to control the other person in hopes that things go your way. That’s normal, but it doesn’t make it okay. The only thing in your co-parenting situation that you can change and control is you.
Forgiveness
Hurt and anger can negatively impact your co-parenting ability. Take some time to address your emotion. Then understand that your feelings do not have to dictate your behavior.Co-parenting can often mean that you will come face-to-face with someone that hurt you. Divorce lawyers in Utah can help you prepare for this step.The hurt, if left unchecked, can cause you to act or behave in a manner that is detrimental to your child’s well-being. It can be traumatic for your child to witness his/her parents arguing fussing, and fighting. Forgiveness is a process that takes time, but it’s possible for you to get there with the right frame of mind.
Work as a Team
Co-parenting means that you and the other parent are on the same team with the same goals. Your primary co-parenting goal is to raise independent, successful children who grow up to contribute positively to society one day. The foundation you lay for your children today will be evident in their outcome tomorrow. Here are a few ways to work as a team to achieve co-parenting goals:- Be respectful
- Show restraint and don’t lash out
- Listen
- Keep the children as the topic of conversation
- Learn how to handle stress in the moment
About the Author:
The Wall's have over more 190 years of combined legal experience as divorce and family law attorneys. They aggressively represent their clients in matters including the complex and difficult issues surrounding paternity, child custody, alimony, grandparent rights, property, and debt division.
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